I've had good occasion of late to spend a lot of time considering the value of being a powerful example of Jesus Christ in these last days. On some days it brings huge rewards, and others, not so much. It brings to mind the struggles and trials many prophets, through the ages, have undergone. It helps me to stop, breathe and reassess what I do. When all is said and done, I am still a daughter of God, standing for His Son, Jesus Christ and willing to proclaim Christ's Gospel to the world.

Looking back on the words of Joseph Smith, Jr. as he proclaimed to the world:

So it was with me. I had actually seen a light, and in the midst of that light I saw two Personages, and they did in reality speak to me; and though I was hated and persecuted for saying that I had seen a vision, yet it was true; and while they were persecuting me, reviling me, and speaking all manner of evil against me falsely for so saying, I was led to say in my heart: Why persecute me for telling the truth? I have actually seen a vision; and who am I that I can withstand God, or why does the world think to make me deny what I have actually seen? For I had seen a vision; I knew it, and I knew that God knew it, and I could not deny it, neither dared I do it; at least I knew that by so doing I would offend God, and come under condemnation. (Joseph Smith History 1:25)

Once truth has been made known to a son or daughter of God, as it was to Joseph Smith, Jr. it behooves that person to stay the course. And Joseph Smith did. No one can say he didn't suffer terribly for his knowledge and testimony of God. No one can say he didn't get up every single day, put one foot in front of another, and continue that steady, unfailing course toward Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ.

I draw on the example of Joseph Smith often in my life. That I might shake off my struggles and worries and remember the most important thing: Jesus Christ lives and that He is my Savior and Redeemer. Because of Him, and only Him, will I return to my heavenly home and greet my Father in Heaven with great joy. And I often think to myself, I have not suffered (nor even come close) as Joseph Smith suffered and I am grateful for my challenges, trials and worries for they come nowhere to close to what this beloved prophet of ours suffered.

Or, let us look to Jonah, that ancient prophet of old. He was commanded by Jehovah, who is Jesus Christ, to journey to Nineveh and preach repentance to the people else they would be destroyed. Jonah didn't want to go to Nineveh, he didn't believe they were worth saving for they had killed his family. Jonah argued with the Lord and in an act of direct disobedience, set sail for Tarshish. All on that ship suffered greatly until Jonah drew the short end of the proverbial stick, was tossed overboard and swallowed by a whale. Yuck.

Eventually, after a hasty discharge from the belly of the whale, Jonah took that 3-day journey to Nineveh and preached repentance to the people or destruction would be visited upon their city after 40 days. And Nineveh repented.

Jonah, on the other hand, went and set himself on the side of a mountain overlooking Nineveh and waited for their destruction. It didn't happen and he was so angry. Those who had killed his family did not, in his heart, deserve to live and Jonah was not willing to accept the declaration of Jehovah that Nineveh had repented and been spared. (See Jonah 1-4)

What is the lesson I take from this biblical story? No matter what we know or what horror has been visited upon us we must stop, listen and accept the Lord's judgment. It is not my job, or yours, to judge because we cannot know another's heart. Oh, we think we might, but we cannot. God knows all things, we do not. It serves no purpose to argue with God, Jonah, as you will see in Chapter 4, paid the price for bucking Jehovah on the redemption of Nineveh. Worms, unforgiving sun, and harsh winds were visited upon him and still Jonah did not want the people of Nineveh to be forgiven. It ends with the Lord asking, Jonah:

And should not I spare Nineveh, that great city, wherein are more than sixscore thousand persons that cannot discern between their right hand and their left hand; and also much cattle? (See Jonah 4:11)

And so I ask, cannot I spare those who have done a disservice to me, for those who have perpetrated such hatred upon me are also children of God whom He loves dearly.

So yes, these examples of these prophets teach powerful lessons which would be wise to internalize, for I am attempting to do that very thing.

In the Book of Exodus, God gave Moses ten commandments, detailing the least that is required of us to be worthy of our place in Heaven. The seventh commandment might appear to us to be out dated—out of touch the reality of modern day life.

The seventh commandment is the law of chastity. That commandments teaches that we must practice chastity before marriage and fidelity afterward. However, we have all heard renowned modern-day psychologists say that such old fashioned standards as chastity, virtue and marriage aren’t relevant today and that it’s impossible to live up to such standards

Don’t believe it.

The value of virtue and chastity are perhaps more relevant today than they have ever been. In his talk, “What Is Real Love and Happiness?,” Neal A. Maxwell of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (or Mormons,) taught six ways that being chaste in todays world can bring you closer to happiness in this and in the world to come (New Era, Jun 1992, 4.)

1. When you choose to follow the Lords’ commandments, you will be in harmony with Him. Your relationship with Him will be preserved and enriched, helping you to retain his Spirit.

When your thoughts are virtuous, your confidence will “wax strong in the presence of God” (D&C 121:45.)

2. You will discover and retain the blessing of deserved self-esteem. By understanding your own worth, you will be able to truly love your neighbor. “Let every man esteem his brother as himself” (D&C 38:24.)

3. Sin deadens our senses. In these last days, the capacity of man to love will “wax cold” because of iniquity (see Matt. 24:12.)

4. You will be free from the heavy burden of guilt. “Despair cometh because of iniquity” (Moro. 10:22.) Free from guilt, you are not turned inward with self-pity.

5. You will be kept from a very real harm. Reports indicate that “as many as 43 million Americans may have acquired incurable sexually transmitted viral infections” (Deseret News, 7 Oct. 1991, p. 7A).

Such diseases, including AIDS, make clear medically what has always been clear spiritually: the only safe pattern of physical affection is within the bounds of marriage—especially a marriage of two consistent commandment keepers. Abstinence from sin is better than moderation or even repentance. Prevention is better than any cure!

6. You will develop a personal wholeness and serenity, which will greatly bless you in both courtship and marriage and in all of your life. The one you choose to love will be respected by you as an individual and not merely as an object of physical attraction and gratification. Your relationship can be as deep, rich, and broad as eternity.

I can truly testify, from my own personal experience, that “despair cometh because of iniquity” (Moro. 10:22.) There is no downside to choosing the right.

Choose the right, keep yourself clean. The Book of Mormon tells of a people who all strove to stay clean before God: “And surely there could not be a happier people among all the people who had been created by the hand of God” (4 Ne. 1:16.)

I pray that you and I can also be examples of righteous living and in doing so, obtain a happiness that fills our hearts, now and forever.

The Fourth of July is one of our family’s favorite holidays. It includes a pancake breakfast in the mountains, a parade, a barbecue, homemade ice cream and a “Driveway of Fire” with the family. The celebration is inspiring and meaningful. It is spent with people we love. Across the country, it is what founding father John Adams expected it to be.

“It ought to be commemorated, as the Day of Deliverance by solemn Acts of Devotion to God Almighty. It ought to be solemnized with Pomp and Parade, with Shews, Games, Sports, Guns, Bells, Bonfires and Illuminations from one End of this Continent to the other from this Time forward forever more.” (The Book of Abigail and John: Selected Letters of the Adams Family, 1762-1784, Harvard University Press, 1975, 142).

Our children love the parade. They love the ice cream and the fireworks. I am glad they love these things. But there is more to love. I want them to love the American heroes who showed true leadership through endurance and sacrifice. I want them to love the liberties of their country and understand how they are “…endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” (Declaration of Independence).

I want them to know that God and Country are inseparable and that their righteousness matters for the good of the United States of America. As John Adams pointed out:

“This pursuit of happiness of man, as well as his dignity consists in virtue.” (Thoughts on Government, John Adams)

In the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, (known as the Mormons) we believe that the founding of America was inspired and authored by God the Father through the work of these “wise men.” (D&C 101:77-80)

These men are heroes I want my kids to know and appreciate, not because of their great talents and skills (although they have many). I want my children to know their work because they all saw God's hand in their work. They acknowledged that their "inalienable" rights came from Him. They knew that only a righteous, virtuous society could enjoy the blessings of liberty.

Forget the basketball players or pop stars. These are the real American Idols I want my children to know. They are described well in the inspiring words of America the Beautiful:

“Oh beautiful for heroes proved In liberating strife,
Who more than self their country loved, And mercy more than life!” (America the Beautiful, Katherine Bates, Samuel Ward)

If our children get to know these American heroes, they will be more likely to follow the counsel of Ezra Taft Benson, Secretary of Agriculture for President Eisenhower and 13th President of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. He said:

“We must…inspire in the lives of our children a love for eternal principles and a desire to seek out honorable men – the best possible – to stand at the head of our political governments, local, state, and federal. Only in this way can we safeguard the liberties which have been vouchsafed to us as our inalienable rights. Unless we do so, we may very easily lose them because of our indifference, because of our failure to exercise our franchise, because we permit men who are unworthy to rise to positions of political power.” (God, Family, Country, Benson, Deseret Book, 1974)

This summer, I want my children to learn the stories of these wise, steadfast, and talented men and women - true American Idols. I want them to study the scriptures that refer to the founding of this great nation. As their knowledge grows, so will their love for country, their gratitude for their Creator, and their desire to preserve the freedom they enjoy.

Does this sound familiar to you?

“Moreover, the Lord saith: Because the daughters of Zion are haughty, and walk with stretched-forth necks and wanton eyes, walking and mincing as they go, and making a tinkling with their feet—“

This certainly seems to describe the women—and the men—of today, but it was actually first said by Isaiah in chapter 3, verse 16, and was quoted in the Book of Mormon in 2 Nephi 13:16.

Billions of dollars are spent to make women fit the description Isaiah offered, and he wasn’t complimenting the results. The stretched-forth neck denotes a haughtiness of attitude unbecoming a woman of God. Overly made up eyes, mincing steps, and tinkling feet all suggest a world in which shallowness has become a substitute for substance. It’s faster and easier to apply a lot of make-up and jewelry, and to dress provocatively, than it is to strengthen our minds and build our characters.

God doesn’t apply standards of dress only to women. Both men and women should dress in ways that demonstrate who they are—children of a Heavenly Father with an eternal purpose.

“We hear that some young men not only request a pair of new shoes for school, but another for sports, and another for church. But not just any athletic shoe will do. They must have special designer label or be a special advertised brand. Your jeans have to be “501s” or “Guess” or “Calvin Klein.” Have you fallen into a trap of peer pressure that requires a certain look for you to be included in the “in” crowd, whether or not your parents can afford such demands?

Do others set your standards—what you will wear and what you will do—and not do? Believing young men and women with standards and values make these decisions for themselves and let others follow. Why aren’t we, as Latter-day Saints—with our high ideals—the examples, the peer leaders setting the standards and criteria that others follow?

The brand of clothes and the shoes you wear, and the gadgetry, probably not affordable by your parents, has absolutely no bearing on what you will eventually become. Our actions, our personal behavior, and our attitude determine our character and future.” (David B. Haight, “A Time for Preparation,” Ensign, Nov 1991, 36)

When we dress modestly—both in the cost of our clothing and in what it covers—we demonstrate that we have eternal priorities. We accept that our bodies are gifts from God given to us for very specific purposes and must be treated with respect and dignity. Showing them off inappropriately in order to invite immoral thoughts is not an appropriate use of a gift from God. Nor is it appropriate to adorn them in expensive finery. It suggests our bodies, created by God, are lacking, and need more than ordinary clothing to be acceptable.

When we think of our bodies as sacred gifts from a Heavenly Father who loves us, it becomes easier to adorn them simply and respectfully, showing God that we consider His gift enough.