I have had a lot of my friends who have gotten married in the last few weeks, and many more who are about to get married. With all these weddings, there are usually bridal showers which I am invited to attend. I find it interesting that though these showers vary in style and activities depending on who is giving the shower and who is attending, there are two activities that are almost always constant. What are these two actives? One is the giving of gifts and the other is the giving of advice. Both are to help the young couple have a jump start in their happy marriage.
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As women of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (LDS), we are dedicated to “strengthening marriages, families, and homes.” We live in a day when more than 50% of marriages in our country fail, dividing families, and wrecking homes. Latter-day Saint women are not left to their own devices, or the offerings of a crumbling culture, to fortify the marriage, family, and home. We have a prophet and God uses him to help us strengthen our marriages, families, and homes. We also have the Holy Ghost to help us apply this general counsel to our specific family’s needs.
This last weekend was my little sister’s wedding reception. My sister and her husband were actually married, in the Mount Timpanogos Temple, back in February, but since the engagement was so short (a matter of days not months) we set the reception for this last weekend to have some breathing room in our planning. This also allowed certain family members the opportunity to make it across country to attend the reception where they weren’t able to attend the Sealing. (In the temple worthy couples are not just married “till death do you part,” but rather they are sealed together and to God for time and all eternity.)
This last weekend my sister was visiting with her new husband. They were planning their wedding reception which is coming up on the 12th of April. Saturday night, my new brother invited two of his good friends to come over. When they arrived, they demanded details on his whirlwind courtship with my sister. After three hours (because of so many interruptions)they had only gotten to the point in their story where they were holding hands (which occurred before the first and only date they had before getting married). We had to set up another game night to finish the story.
Where many in the world have the power and authority to marry a couple in the eyes of the law, and even the eyes of God, till death do them part, there are only a few who have the power and authority to marry a couple for time and all eternity. Likewise, where the first sort of marriage previously stated may be preformed anywhere, the second sort can only be preformed in a Temple of God by one who has been given the authority to do so (a Sealer). This is the same authority that Christ gave to his apostles.
Four years ago, on 1 November 2003, one of my best friends from college married my oldest brother in the Salt Lake Temple. This was such a happy event for me, for temple marriage and families are central to our Father’s Plan for us.
I was talking on the phone to a friend several years ago. We were complaining about our husbands and laughing at what seemed to be universal faults with the sex. I was criticizing my own husband and mocking his faults and shortcomings, repeating the same litany of offenses that women on talk shows and in magazines and books seemed to encounter in their own spouses. Why are men like that? Why can’t he see my more perfect point of view and just do things my way? It’s certainly easier than what he’s doing! My friend and I laughed and marveled at the crazy ways of men.
The pressure to get married within the Mormon (LDS) culture can be quite a burden. If a young, single, LDS man or woman isn’t in a serious relationship at least by the time they’re 22, something must be desperately wrong, ha-ha.
You’ve already had your first fight. Now what?
I remember the day I got married. My husband was so handsome and I knew that I could never love any one more than I loved him then and that it was so right to marry him. After our sealing ceremony in the temple, we parted ways to go change clothing. When I saw my husband next, he was waiting for me in the lobby of the temple talking to one of my former roommates. She told me later that he had been in the middle of saying something but that when I walked in the room he completely lost track of what he was saying and just stared at me. I felt like a princess in my own private fantasy.