“..codependent behavior like filtering, stalking, and not allowing privacy. ”
For other readers reading this, I felt I needed to add that this is not always a sign of codependency. I agree that we can never control our husbands addictions. But we have a right to protect our home and prevent this filth from entering and endangering our children. I have been led many times by promptings from the Lord to check the monitoring programs on my husbands phone and computer, and I am grateful to have learned early on all the ways my husband brought pornography into my home, and how often he compulsively lied about everything. I basically learned how to find the “leaks” in my home, stop them, and set clearer boundaries. I would still be clueless without these filtering/monitoring program, which would have been disastrous for my children because a childs odd of exposure and future addiction go up when pornography is brought into the home. My husband gave up his online privacy at home when he chose to put his family in grave danger. Me and my children’s safety comes first, and we have a right to a safe and peaceful home 🙂