It may seem peculiar to be having a discussion on manners as we explore the we realize. Bruce R. McConkie once put it this way:
“Courtesy is a natural outgrowth of the refining influence of the Spirit of the Lord.”
First, what is the Lord really asking when He tells us not to behave in an unseemly fashion? He is asking us to let our actions, words, and interactions testify of Him. We are to be examples of His love and nature every day. As His disciples, we are promising to stand as a witness of His gospel “at all times and in all things, and in all places”. Showing respect and consideration for others is a big part of that.
The Lord has provided instruction concerning our actions in the following manner:
“Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:” 1 Peter 3:8
“And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” Ephesians 4:31-32
Many in this day and age have forgotten the power of courtesy. We live in a “me first” society when Christ would have us living in a “you first” world. It is now the abnormal standard to treat everyone with kindness and respect instead of the expected standard. We may know the golden rule but many no longer believe in its power for good. Think of the power there is in a sincere apology, a random act of kindness with nothing expected in return, in considering another’s feelings before speaking. When they come from the heart, good manners show thoughtfulness, kindness, love, respect and gratitude.
Another aspect to consider is our appearance. What does it say about our beliefs and nature? We act differently depending on what we are wearing. We wouldn’t consider weeding the garden or playing basketball in our Sunday best. Conversely, we tend to be a bit more reserved when we’ve been careful with our appearance.
Refraining from unseemly behavior is also often contagious, just as the opposite is true. When we act in a manner that is pleasing to our Heavenly Father we can:
Create a more loving home.
Improve our relationships with family and friends.
Helps us accomplish our righteous goals.
Create a better community, country and world.
