Ashley is on a quest to find a great LDS guy. If you’re just starting this series, look back to see how it all started and what happened before this article.
The internet is a very useful tool for finding information. Even just today I looked up Halloween masks. However, it does not hold the keys to success for every aspect of our lives. For the past few months I have been participating on LDSplanet- an online dating resource. During this time I also commissioned (with bribes, not money) my mission friend Tara to try out LDSSingles.com. We made it a goal to see which resource was better. While our purpose was to compare and contrast we both came up with similar results. The results and findings can be summarized in one sentence: If you are looking to date a 68 year old who is divorced with three kids, is not temple worthy, did not serve a mission, and lives in Chile, then boy, do we have the source for you!
If you aren’t quite looking for that, you will see the faces of many people. However, your interaction will be very little. Personally I held conversations with only two men on the site in the entire three months I was on it. The first guy seemed alright for about 2 minutes. Then he posed the question, “How do you feel about French kissing?” (WHAT THE?! I don’t even know you!) When I chose to ignore him he asked, “Did I Say Something Wrong? I just wondered if after I met you if you would let me teach you about that.” Let’s just say that I used the handy blocking tool and never had to deal with that guy again. The second guy was really nice. We talked about General Conference, our favorite talks, and the things that we liked to do for fun. Then I never heard from him again.
My favorite “we’ve got a match for you” moment happened when they selected a guy from my old ward as the best possible match for me. I got a good laugh out of that one. I saw him the next week at Institute and told him that there was a rumor he was well-matched for me. He was confused and as I further explained what I meant he laughed harder and mentioned he had gotten off the site a while ago, but hadn’t taken down his profile.
Perhaps there were a few real sources of potential. One really liked me! He made me one of his “favorites” and he sent me messages telling me how excited he was to meet me. He also continuously sent me flirt messages telling me how awesome I am. When I clicked on his profile I learned that he was 68. Perhaps there was even potential in that one guy who viewed my profile over 30 times but never once said a word to me. (Should I be flattered or creeped out?)
Tara had similar experiences. One of the guys she was talking to
actually kept messaging her and was offended and crazy when she tried to politely say she wasn’t interested. He called her immature and accused her of not giving a guy a chance. He was much older than her, was divorced with a few kids, no mission, and not temple worthy. And she wasn’t attracted to him at all. You aren’t going to be attracted to everyone! That is just a fact! She had to call and block him from sending her any more messages. Guess some people online don’t really like to take no for an answer.
Not all of the guys online were super old, but in all honesty I would say the average age was somewhere between 35 and 70. For a 26 year old, that didn’t really help too much. Sorry, my online dating friends, it doesn’t look like you are the winners either.
Ashley Dewey is extremely talented at being single. Hobbies include awkward conversations with members of the opposite sex, repelling third dates, talking to boys about their girl problems and to girls about their boy problems. In her spare time she also has a very fulfilling school life, work life, and social life. Besides being a professional single, Ashley is also a BYU graduate with a degree in linguistics (Aka word nerd). She enjoys studying other languages, particularly American Sign Language, and finds most all of them fascinating. She is currently pursuing a masters degree in Teaching English as a Second Language. Ashley works most of the time and has often been accused of being a workaholic. Currently she works full time as a merchandiser and supervisor in a retail store, and part time doing social media work. On her day off she works (really it doesn't feel like work) in the Provo LDS temple. The only kind of work she finds difficulty focusing on is house work. Her favorite activities in her free time are reading, writing, creating social experiments, and spending time with great friends and family. Specific activities with those family and friends include: going to concerts, plays, dance recitals, BYU basketball and football games, and watching sports on television.